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Saturday, March 3, 2012

Building a Handbag Wardrobe, Again

Having cleaned out the accessories closet to make room for the latest (and, ahem, last) acquisition, I got to thinking about what makes a handbag wardrobe "complete."  This is my second try at having a complete handbag wardrobe, and it's been a very different approach.

My old approach was the constant hunt - for a good deal, for the right color, for a different designer.  I would walk into a store thinking "hey, don't I need a little navy clutch? doesn't everyone?" or "something in just this shade of purple to match the flowers in my new dress I bought on sale."  After about four years of hunting and buying, I ended up with shelves full of purses who had rather singular uses.  I had some satisfaction in lining them up according to color and size - it's the OCD in me - but my overall feeling was rather indifferent.  They were just a pile of impulsive choices that rarely thrilled me past the point of purchase.  (Same story with clothes and shoes, after all.)  And with so many, I still often felt like I didn't have just the right one.  It was crazy!

You all know perhaps from previous posts that I had a sartorial shift once we had our big move - many of my purses were packed up in storage, and I took only my favorites.  It was liberating to have less choice, to choose from better and more well-loved things, and while I am certainly not a minimalist I finally understood a bit of the appeal.  And then eventually I stumbled across Hermes, and my love for their craftsmanship and quality left me hooked.  My first bag I truly loved gave me a thrill to wear each and every time I wore it - not just at the point of purchase.  Suddenly, I knew that I would much rather have a few things I LOVED than being buried in a pile of "meh."  So arose the question, if I could do it all over again, what would be my perfect handbag wardrobe?

Without of the guilt of past mistakes (the sentimentality of the old bags far from sight in storage), I started carefully drafting a plan, and here was my thought process.


Guide to Building a Handbag Wardrobe

What is your lifestyle today?  In five years?
I realize this requires a bit of fortunetelling, but the idea is that the handbag selections you make are long-term choices.  What you buy today should be relevant and useful five years from now.  Of course there are the transition periods of life - maybe you are a student now but plan to ditch the backpack soon enough, or you are a mom with a toddler and can't imagine wearing a day clutch which keeping hold of sticky fingers.*  But overall, you should have a good sense of the kinds of activities you do and the needs your handbag wardrobe will need to fulfill.

For example, when I drafted my plan, I knew the following about myself:
* I travel frequently for work, and must look pulled together wherever I arrive - often from plane straight to meeting.
* I travel frequently for pleasure, mostly urban destinations.
* I carry a lot of stuff with me, and I need to have plenty of room and easy access.
* I like handheld totes, especially for work, but I also like cross-body and shoulder bags for sight-seeing type travel.
* I rarely do either very formal events or roughing-it types of adventures.

What does your lifestyle tell you about the types of bags you will find most useful?
Here is where I sit back and think about style and function.  Using myself as an example, I broke it into categories, along with a rough percentage of use:

* Everyday large-capacity bag - think totes or satchels for work or travel (60%)
* Hands-free bag - think slightly sportier, cross-body or shoulder bag great for errands or sightseeing (30%)
* More formal or dressier bag - think clutch or 'lady-like' bag for nice dinner out, opera or formal event (10%)

The percentage I estimated I used each type of bag was also a good indication of where my budget should go.  Although I admire the bejeweled mini-audieres from Judith Lieber, it wouldn't be sensible to spend half my budget on a bag used maybe once a year.

Okay, what do you know for sure are your "nevers"?
It's easy to think about things that we don't like or don't suit us before we are faced with temptations in the store.  For example, a bag that meets your color and size criteria, but it's a backpack -- and you never wear backpacks, but maybe just this once... No, don't do it.  Some people can't bear hand-carry only bags.  Or don't do fabric.  Or maybe puffy quilting.  Whatever is your think, make note of it now because you might be faced with an oh-so-slight variation that you think might actually work but will really linger in your closet once you've bought it.

What does your lifestyle and personality tell you about material?
Another important consideration - what materials work well with your life and your preferences?

How hard are you on your bags?  Are you a bag baby-er?
Do you care about weight?
Do you have a preference for structured or slouchy?
Do you have a preference for leather, or canvas, nylon or fabric?  Are there some categories of bag you prefer one over another?
How weather-proof must your bags be?

For me, I knew I had a preference for leather and that I would want a sturdy one which didn't need to be babied.  It was also important to me that my most used bags be easily reconditioned, because they would go through a lot and I would expect them to last and look good for a long time.

Now, what about color?
Here's where it can get a little tricky, because if you don't have a good sense of wardrobe colors you can wind up in a "collect 'em all" kind of place.  I used to have a rainbow of bags largely because I had every color of the rainbow in my wardrobe.  But once I narrowed down my wardrobe colors to a handful, I had a much clearer sense of what accessories I needed to support that wardrobe.

For me, my wardrobe colors are black, white, grey/etoupe, khaki, camel.  Accent colors of red and purple.  When I purged my wardrobe, I got rid of all my navy and dark brown - two colors I found difficult - along with many other brights.  Standing in front of my closet, I started thinking about both the different scenarios and seasons I would wear my clothes.  It helped me narrow down the colors for my bags to this:

* black
* brown
* lighter neutral (especially for spring/ summer-wear)
* pop of color (for me, red)

Now, cross reference your style, materials and colors list and do a statistical regression on the likelihood that I lost you at "cross reference."  Oh, um, I mean, compare your lists and make a simple chart instead.


             Everyday Tote (60%)           Everyday Hands-free (30%)            Formal (10%)
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Black    leather or canvas                   leather                                  any
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Brown  leather or canvas                   leather                            not needed
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Light Neutral    not needed          leather or canvas                  not needed
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Pop of Color     leather                     not needed                           leather
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Notice that in my version of the chart, I resisted the temptation to check off the box in each color or category right away.  There are some spots where I thought I could do without - like a light neutral bag in a formal style.  Building your wardrobe can take years, it's best to slowly assess over time what you'll actually need and use.

Now, the fun begins!  Research, research, research.  Spend time planning, budgeting, and assessing how you will fulfill each category.   Go into stores and feel the merchandise, talk with sales people about wear and maintenance, and do your own investigating as well.  Talk with friends about their favorite bags or labels, you might find something outside your familiar haunts which you will love.  And take it on as a challenge to last years - not overnight - because taking your time minimizes mistakes.  I found this planning also works well for thoughtful wardrobe additions of the clothing and shoe varieties as well.

Anyway, as you can see from the chart, 8 or so bags ought to take me through a variety of my life's events and activities.  Okay okay, this is where theory and reality part company because I do own more than 8 bags.  But in the three or so years since I created my plan I haven't strayed very far.  I have two black bags in the hands-free category, and there is a brown clutch that fits the formal category - but I had that one before I started.  I also leave room for a special purchase now and again, like my latest acquisition.  Certainly not needed, but we've already established I'm more hedonist than minimalist.  Leave room for a little straying; I came across my second black bag in Argentina and would have been sad to pass it up just because that box had already been ticked.  I found making more mindful, careful choices led me to wear and enjoy my things more - and that's the whole point.





Saturday, February 11, 2012

Decision Has Been Made!

My latest addition... Hermes Kelly Ghillie 32cm in Rubis Tadelakt leather
Now I'm done.  :)

Friday, October 28, 2011

Weekend in NYC Outfit Diary

I usually travel in a pretty consistent uniform (actually, much like I dress) and I  thought it would be fun to post my "outfit diary" from my weekend trip to New York from a couple weeks ago.

Years ago, I started making "outfit diaries" to help me pack for trips - laying out outfits and writing each item down.  Having a list of what I was traveling with helped me organize myself, keep my over-packing in check, and gave me a sense of what I should weep over if ever my luggage were lost or stolen (which has happened twice).  Over time, I became a convert to carry-on only travel, and my outfit diaries have become even more important to keep me packing sensibly.  If you have only room for one sweater, then it had better match everything pretty darn well.

Only now, instead of writing things down, I usually lay everything out and do a couple quick shots with my iPhone.  Here is what I took with me for my last weekend trip to New York City (advance apologies for the poor picture quality).


Day of Shopping/Light sight-seeing: Cardigan and shell, comfortable skirt, tote bag, flats.

Light grey St. John Sweater Set, Black Armani Skirt, VCA Necklace

Raisin 35 cm Birkin, Hermes Scarf Tohu Bohu, Chanel Ballerinas

Dinner out: Coat, LBD, clutch and slingbacks.

Gold Silk Burberry Trench, Black Silk Compagnie Francaise de l'Orient et de la Chine Dress,
VCA Necklace

Hermes Jige in Rouge H Box, Chanel Slingbacks, Hermes Scarf in Tohu Bohu

Sporty Sightseeing: Jeans, t-shirt, sweater, tote and flats.
Saint James Stripe T-shirt, COS Black Open Cardigan, Dark Wash Ralph Lauren Jeans

Repeat from previous day...


As you can see, I try to choose a main color - usually black or grey, and accent with a pop of color (bag and/or scarf).  There's lots of repeating happening, but as the shoes are tried and true for example, I know I won't miss having more to choose from.  The one scarf ties in all the various outfits, and I limit my jewelry to just one accent piece, in this case a necklace.  Lastly, I am able to get a third day's outfit by mixing and matching the black skirt and cardigan with the grey shell or wearing the black dress with the scarf as an obi-style belt.

These outfits worked a couple of weeks ago when it was still in the high 60s and 70s.  When I was in New York City this week, it was a little cooler so I wore a warmer sweater/coat and tights but essentially the same concept as the first outfit.

Do you do "outfit diaries" for your trips?  Are you a carry-on traveler or chronic over-packer?  Any tips to keep things manageable?

Thursday, October 6, 2011

Fall is in the Air! (and around my neck)

My only Fall indulgence so far... a new scarf.

See, I went to the Hermes Sample Sale in NYC a couple weeks ago, and I told myself the ONLY think I really could justify was if I found some of their "older" cashmere.  It seems to me that the older stuff was thicker somehow than some of the newer designs, and anyway, it was worth having a look-see.

I arrived a couple days into the sale, so to my surprise, there were actually no scarves left really except a couple tassled fringey poncho numbers and some bedraggled looking items I'd seen at the last sale.  Oh, well, it was a long shot.

I was rifling through their shoe section when I saw this lady with a beautiful paisley stole.  I thought to myself, "I really love paisley and that is such a beautiful one, I wonder where she got it?  I am surprised they let her in with a scarf anyway, aren't you supposed to take them off?? I wish Hermes made paisley prints more... perhaps I'll check out Etro."  (Yes, I really do have such long conversations in my head, I was an only child...)

I am lost in a paisley reverie when lo and behold, I stumble across a scarf just like hers!  The scarf she was holding was indeed an Hermes one, one at that very sale, lurking about in a pile I'd missed by the ties.  I wish I could say it was the universe reading my mind, but it's only a scarf after all, so let's not be that serious.

Of course I bought the scarf, and I am extra pleased because it was part of my original plan, and something I loved even before I thought it was for sale.  There is nothing worse than feeling like maybe you bought something in part because you trekked all the way to the store, or it was on sale, or it seemed "good enough."  I have fallen prey to all those traps before, but not this time.  I even walked away from a few very good pairs of shoes for the same reason.  *sniff* Sometimes doing the right thing is hard, but the scarf is a good reward...


And here she is!
The colors are Autumn itself!

I love the rosettes in mustard yellow, maroon and brown...

Wednesday, October 5, 2011

Hiatus, Interrupted

Ok, after a series of family visits followed by sickness (unrelated) which have kept me focused on other things, I am back today to hopefully what is considered regularly posting.  Sincere apologies for the long and unplanned hiatus!

A Fall chill has descended upon this little corner of the world, and I couldn't be more thrilled as this is really my favorite time of year.  I am definitely a cold-weather dresser, and gladly welcome fall so I can get back into my boots and tights and scarves again.  

When it comes to Fall/Winter wardrobe planning, I am in a little bit of a muddle this year though.

First off, I have all the clothes I need.  

Huh?

Say, what?  

If my mother were reading this, first she'd wonder if I'd been snatched by an alien.  And second, she'd drop dead.  Really, I mean it.  We are born shoppers, it's like denying the family legacy.

Truth is, I never really thought I would get to a place where I could admit such heresy, but here we are.  I have more than enough clothes, good quality things that I love and feel happy to wear, for all sorts of occasions.  

In fact, I don't even get a chance to wear all the clothes I love enough -- all my pretty little jackets and knit skirts which are my cold weather staples see a lot less action now that I am not a corporate drudge.  (Little known secret: one of the few things I loved about my work was the chance to dress up.)  Now I am in jeans and sweaters most of the time, because it would be weird to putter around the kitchen in blazers.  And I have plenty of jeans and sweaters too, so that's out.  Shoot.  

Okay, reason two I am in a fall shopping doldrums: I used to be motivated by making sure I got in on whatever the hot new color or style was.  Now, not so much.  I am hep to their marketing schemes.  I mean, doesn't it seem like we keep hearing the same Fall color story, year after year?  This year's color: berry.  Wait, two seasons ago, wasn't it plum?  Every Fall, we get some variation on this theme: aubergine! khaki! charcoal! and the proverbial animal print!  Recently I even heard black was back.  Sheesh.  I have my wardrobe colors, and I'm sticking to them - they're neutrals, classics, and suit my coloring and the accessories I've built up around them.  So I am no longer tempted by just that particular shade of this season's burgundy.  

Which is a bummer actually, because I still love clothes and I do appreciate the thrill of shopping.  I was explaining all of this to my spouse, who said it sounded all very anti-consumerist, but it's not.  Just because I don't NEED anything doesn't mean I don't WANT anything... there's the rub. 

I have two things on my WANT list this year, and they are both unfortunately so splurge-y that they are mutually exclusive.  

The first is an olive green 30cm Birkin from Hermes in the Ghillie design.  It's supposed to be new for A/W 2011, and it's like a Birkin married a pair of Church's shoes and had a darling baby.  My name is first on the list for one at my local store, but that doesn't actually mean much as I haven't even seen a photo of it and have no assurance of when it will come in.  I've basically put it out of my mind and will be terribly surprised if I manage to hold it in my hot little hands before the new year.  

So the other WANT is this Alexander McQueen sweater coat:  

Buy at Alexander McQueen


It goes without saying that the other implied WANT here is an additional 6 inches in height and less 6 inches in girth to rock this jacket as it should be rocked.  Some things are probably best admired from afar.



So that's what's has been putting a crimp in my Fall shopping habit.  In the spirit of total confession though, I am not a shopping saint.  I have bought one small thing this Fall - didn't need it but I couldn't resist - and I'll debut it and tell you all about it tomorrow!    

Thursday, July 28, 2011

Packing for Summer Essentials

Last summer, we did a driving tour of France for two weeks, driving down from Paris, to Dijon, the Grande Route des Alpes, on to the French Riviera and Provence. It was a trip of a lifetime, and I have never seen such diverse natural beauty - from snow-capped mountains to crystalline ocean shores - in one country.

Part of enjoying that trip was the relaxed easy from which we moved from stop to stop.  That could not have been achieved without packing light.
Because of my frequent travel for work, I learned to be a rather ruthless packer for more formal wear, but it was a little bit of a challenge for this kind of  casual trip, especially when dealing with so many climates.  I've done my best to recreate my suitcase for you below, and as you can see, with a little handwashing here and there, 9 pieces of clothing can make for a fabulous, stylish and worry-free summer travel wardrobe.  This continues to be my summer formula this year as well with small variations here and there.

View of boats from Cannes, France
Packing for Summer Essentials

Packing for Summer Essentials by c'estca featuring rubber shoes






































Tops:
1. Fun top in your accent color - I always like a peasant-inspired style for summer
2. Breezy white blouse which can be punched up with accessories or a cover-up on the beach
3. Striped Breton top - Saint James' shirts are indestructable and worth every penny
4. Soft white t-shirt - I actually prefer longer length sleeves even in summer, for sun protection, and the thin cotton ensures I won't get too hot
5. Light cardigan in a neutral - for chilly evenings, air conditioning, or mountain tops

Dress:
1. Black dress in cotton or linen - can be a comfortable touring outfit or jazzed up for evening

Bottoms:
1.  A white skirt - much preferred over shorts, and just as cool and comfortable
2.  Black linen trousers - comfy, cool, and surprisingly easy to refresh with a bit of ironing
3.  Black knit skirt - day or evening, comfortable and chic

Accessories:
1.  Statement necklace - I actually take two and alternate, but this horn one works well with almost anything
2.  Sparkly earrings - dresses up practically anything to take you to dinner and so small to pack
3.  Floppy hat - again, sun protection is very important!
4.  Sunglasses - I prefer tortoiseshell for my complexion, make sure the style and color suits you before jumping on a particular trend though
5. 2 scarves - yes, even in summer these are great treats.  Tie loosely around your neck or even around the band of your hat for a pop of color.
6.  A bangle or bracelet in your accent color

Shoes:
1.  An interesting sandal or flip flop - but make it special!  I love these heart detailed rubber sandals from YSL.  They are a few seasons old, but they go with me everywhere in the summer.
2.  A great walking shoe* in a ballerina style - for me, nothing beats the comfort of Chanel flats for my wide feet, but there are plenty of other designers doing this style.
3.  A comfy sandal which can be dressed up or down - for me, it's the Oran sandal from Hermes, but the key here is they should fit like a glove, wear well, and look nice enough to go anywhere.

Bags:
1. Tote or shoulder bag in neutral color: the essentials for me are clean lines, go anywhere style, and quality.  It's okay to take your good bags on holiday, I swear. **
2.  Clutch in a neutral color - casual enough for days when you don't need to lug a heavy bag, and nice enough for night.

Polish:
A neutral shimmer on the toes wears well and won't show chips.  I go clear or totally bare on my fingers, so as not to worry about manicures while traveling!


Alight, now for a side-rant on traveling shoes and bags:

* I am not a fan of sports-styled walking shoes and sneakers, esp. in the summer.  I feel they look too clunky and out of place in a chic wardrobe.  I choose shoes that can go with slacks as well as skirts, and if it doesn't pass the skirt test then perhaps it's a bit too sporty for my needs.  I am a firm believer that you can find a comfortable but elegant shoe for most city-touring kind of trips.  I never understand people who look like they are about to climb a mountain when they arrive ready to tour Paris or New York.  What kind of rough terrain or survival challenge do they expect to meet in the pastry shop or museum?  If you wouldn't wear hiking boots to your home town to stroll around, why would you do it somewhere else (especially where you plan to be memorialized by photo)?  My one exception to sporty sandals are Birkenstocks.  Especially if you have foot troubles, these can be a lifesaver.  I think they are an excellent alternative to less-supportive shoes but still look very presentable with their variety of colors and styles.

** Many people let their good bags linger in their closets while they travel.  Your things are meant to be used, so use them!  Of course I am still talking of the city trip here, and not safari, but if you love your Birkin every day of the week at home, why wouldn't you take it with you on holiday?  My nice bags go with me everywhere (in carry-on, never check).  Yes, they have to be looked after, but it's no different than when I am  using them in my own neck of the woods.  Don't leave your bag open or unattended, don't put loosely capped bottles of liquid inside, and don't walk down dark alleys at night.  Really, that should apply whether you are wearing a Chanel or no-name canvas tote.  Take care of your things and they'll last forever, don't use your things and they'll end up fetching a ton in your estate sale - which would you choose?  

<end ranting> ;)



Traveling is about being in the moment, taking in all the new experiences, and being ready for any adventure that may call.  To me, that also means being comfortable and confident in your wardrobe, feeling like you can go anywhere dressed just as you are, stylishly and lightly.  Worry about your clothes before you leave, so you won't have to when you arrive.  With some carefully edited packing, you can enjoy your summer plans without all that baggage!




 





Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Sunday, July 17, 2011

A Style (R)evolution -- Part 2: Blame it on the Purse

Moving to Europe, I had far more excitement than misgivings about making the big change.  And yet I was apprehensive about how I would adjust to a new culture, a new lifestyle, a new language... We were leaving Southern California, the land of shopping malls, freeways and friendly "Housewives of Orange County" (yup, some even lived in our neighborhood!), not to mention walk-in closets and storage space galore.  Our new home, Brussels, Belgium couldn't have been a more perfect polar opposite.  Atmospheric rainy cobblestone streets filled with bi- and tri-lingual baguette-toting Eurocrats... a place where carb intake was considered normal and even appreciated (hence their mastery of chocolate, beer and waffles).  But I digress...

Our new apartment in Belgium was a 19th century maison de maitre, with beautiful plaster work and molding and wood floors.  We were lucky, though, that it had been remodeled to include some modern amenities, including a few small closets.  As our Belgian friends liked to frequently remind us, this was NOT the norm and we should consider ourselves lucky.  We did.  

We moved in, and I tried to artfully arrange my pared down wardrobe in the new space.  I had to get everything - clothes, purses, shoes, folded items, undergarments, pjs - all into one space PLUS it somehow had to fit all our bed and table linens.  It was crammed to the gills, but I did it!


My Belgian Closet, a couple months into our move.

We settled in, and one of my favorite new hobbies became cafe-going.  My definition of really living it up involved sitting outside at one of those small tables... ah, that was the life.  I would step out my front door, march up the street about 50 yards to a pedestrian riddled shopping zone filled with cafes and restaurants.  I could sit there for hours and admire all the outfits as they passed by.  Yes, I am an outfit oogler, I confess.  A few of the things I learned while sartorially staring at the Bruxelloises saunter past?

1.  They care about how they look when the leave the house.  
By American standards, they look "dressed up" even for the most banal errands.  Meaning, they are not in sweatpants or pajama bottoms or sports-purposed shorts.  No one looks like they ran out of the door with wet hair and a cup of coffee from Dunkin' Donuts.  Yes, people may start the day a little later as result, but darnit the outcome looks good.

2.  They invest in quality, well-fitting clothes.
The way a shoulder was joined to the rest of the suit, or the fine loft on a well-knit cardigan, or the way a skirt draped... these things were obvious even if I was not very close to the wearer.  Oftentimes I found myself lingering for one last look of a person wearing a fantastic jacket or some such thing -- not because of a logo or reflective stripe, but because it was beautifully made and beautifully worn.  

3.  They pay a lot of money for their clothes, so they choose wisely.
The bargain-hunter in me was surprised to see people enter fancy boutiques and exit with a bag!  I mean, there wasn't even a sale going on.  In the States, I loved popping into a Marshall's or TJ Maxx or Macy's and picking up a little bargain.  Here, sales happened twice a year, and while they were nice, people shopped outside the sales seasons too.  Prices were steeper, but it made them focus on only what they really needed.  They might go into a shop and buy a jewel of a sweater, and it be the only purchase they make that winter.  But they would treasure it, and wear it for years, because it was carefully considered and selected.

4.  They are picky about what they buy.
While in the shops, I noticed people having much more in-depth conversations about the products with salespeople.  Questions like "where was it made?"  "how was it made?"  "how do I take care of it?" were very common.  Trying something on was a serious event.  The husband, child, and salesladies from two different counters could hover around a woman as she tested a dress from different angles.  She might spend 20 minutes discussing, considering, moving around in the garment, before deciding not to take it after all.  There was no shame in passing up something mediocre and holding out for just the right thing instead.  And the salespeople never seemed put out by this behavior either.  

5.  No one looks chic if they are walking funny.
Meaning, just about everyone wore sensible shoes.  Brussels is a wet city with lots of uneven sidewalks.  Stilettos were virtually unseen, but practical boots, flats and wedges were all around.  Rarely, I would see a woman daintily picking her way between cobblestones in sky high heels, arms akimbo as she balanced precariously -- invariably it was an American or Brit on holiday.  (Brits seem to have a lot of the fashion foibles we Americans do...)

6.  Everyone looks good in black, or grey, or navy...
People seemed to gravitate towards darker colors and neutrals more often than the fun green shirt that goes with just one thing in your closet.  Coming from California, I was used to lots of resort-wear colors - but that also meant investing in coordinating single-purpose accessories and accompaniments.  People here didn't have the room for those kinds of fripperies, and dark colors and neutrals could be invested in for the long haul, looked slimming and always looked stylish.

7.  Everyone could afford at least a little luxury.
As we slowly built up new friends and acquaintances, it seemed like they spent more on luxuries than our American friends.  We wondered how this could be, because we knew the cost of living in Europe to be higher and credit card debt per capita lower than in the US.  I won't get into statistics here, but I think this anecdote explains what might be happening:  In the US, I had friend who hoped someday to have a Louis Vuitton wallet.  He talked about it often, but said he couldn't afford it.  But he did afford big sprees during the Nordstrom's sales, and going out to eat almost nightly.  Our European friends saved up and planned for purchases -- and it included high end, high quality items too -- rather than binges or bad habits.  It's about making choices.  

While I could go on with this list for a very long while, I will stop there for now to share with you my biggest personal style epiphany in those early months.  It happened shortly after our move.  I have always had a love of purses, and considered myself a collector of sorts (at least quantity if not always quality).  I had a purse in every color of the rainbow, from Coach to Furla to Gucci.  And I had this "collect-them-all" kind of mentality, where I wanted to have a purse from each of the major purse designers.  I was slowly working my way around the list, when I got to Hermes.  No, I wasn't working alphabetically, but Hermes was just one area I was too intimidated to cross.  I was certain it would be too expensive right now, but maybe someday...

That's when my spouse reminded me that I was talking just like my American friend with the wallet lust.  Someday, someday, well, why not make it today?  By chance, the Hermes boutique was less than a 10 minute walk from our apartment.  On one of our evening strolls soon after, we decided that I should stop fogging up the window and actually go in.  The rest, as they say, is history.

I found a purse I fell in love with then and there, and it came home with me that night.  It was a messenger style in this lovely taupe color (I'll post a pic tomorrow) and gorgeous leather.  It was better quality than anything else I owned, and more expensive than all but my diamond jewelry, and when I wore it I think I hovered a few inches above the ground... I was in purse heaven, and in a totally new way.  

Ordinarily, when I bought something new, the thrill was in the acquisition and also maybe the first time wearing it.  After that, it joined the ranks of the ho-hum and I really didn't get too excited after that.  But this Hermes purse was special.  It was my jewel, my little treasure.  I would want it to last forever, and I planned on building my life around it... Ok, maybe I exaggerate a bit.  But not by much.  I had a thrill each and every time I wore it, and it didn't diminish over time.  It made me want to have more jewels in my wardrobe -- things I could feel joyous about wearing every day for years to come -- rather than those cheap fixes that cost a lot but left me feeling empty. 

It was my ah-ha moment, and I was hooked.  Suddenly, when I went shopping, I started examining every item as if it would be chained to me forever.  Does this item fill a gap in my wardrobe?  Would I buy it for twice this price or only if it were a deal?  Would I want this 2 or 5 or 10 years from now?  Would it last?  Is this worthy of being worn with my lovely Hermes bag?  

My shopping habit trickled to a standstill.  I still spent the time researching, examining, discussing with salespeople, but I was happy to walk away empty handed if nothing met my criteria.  It appears some of the shopping habits of my newfound compatriots had worn off on me...










Monday, July 4, 2011

Fantasy Fourth of July Shopping

This 4th of July, I deliberately chose to stay away from the mall.  As part of my evolving philosophy on style and shopping (look out for a separate post explaining that whole affair), and I'm sticking with my resolution to buy only classic, quality pieces that fit gaps in my current wardrobe.  That means having a deliberate shopping plan of things I need (versus things I saw on sale and impulse-bought), so mall sales are no longer that appealing.

However, I could not ignore the piles of emails in my inbox alerting me to the fact that there would be some serious bargains to be had this weekend, so I decided to get my shopping fix by hitting the internet instead.  It's no secret that one of the delights of internet shopping is you can put as many things in your cart as you like, mull them over for days at a time, and then pull the trigger (or not) after you've had a good think.  It's hassle free, I never feel pressured by a sales person and don't have to get out of my pajamas, so what's not to like?  It's like fantasy football but with shopping.  Awesome.

Some of the ladies on PurseForum were in a tizzy about the Saks sale today, but I didn't find much, at least online.  But Net-a-Porter, on the other hand, did have quite a selection for me, and I ended up filling up my virtual cart with a number of interesting ponderables which I have been letting simmer for a couple days.  On my shopping list: a simple black cardigan, a white blouse, and a white casual t-shirt.  I am also pre-planning for winter, so I don't pass up good deals on tights.  I am also in the market for winter brogues, preferable Church's.  In my cart: a black cotton cardigan from McQ, a Ralph Lauren Black Label white shirt, an Stella Mccartney ivory t-shirt, grey Falke tights, and tan brogues - by Church's no less!  It was practically kismet, no?

Rather than pull the trigger right away, I let everything percolate a few days while running the danger that things might get sold out in my size.  I like to live life on the edge, huh?  Anyway, I've gotten to the point where everything that comes into the house has to be a "forever" kind of match, not a "just for now, until I find the real one" kind of stop-gap.  It was fun having all those things in my virtual cart, but how fun would they be hanging in my closet?

After a good deal of consideration, here is what I decided.  I passed on the cardigan as it was cotton and I am hoping for a wool or wool/cashmere blend.  Actually, I know my "forever" cardigan - it's a Chanel boyfriend style with discreet buttons.  Why buy a placeholder when the exact one I want is out there?  (Albeit currently out of my price range.)   The ivory t-shirt was dumped because it was not the white I really wanted, and the grey tights too because they reminded me of sweatshirt grey sportiness which is just not me.  Bye to the brogues because they were a summery tan whereas I really want a darker rain resistant color like black or dark brown.  Whew, it was like cleaning out my closet without any of the guilt!

So what did I end up with?  Your deductive powers serve you right, my dear Watson: the Ralph Lauren Black Label Delaney white shirt.  I am in love with this shirt.  From the pintuck detailing on the front to the sheerness of the fabric to the french cuffs, this shirt combines everything I ever loved about the previous white shirts I have owned.  This is the "forever" shirt I have been looking for.  I imagine this under a crisp blazer with an Hermes scarf at the throat.  Or more casual chic, over a pair of jeans and a simple camisole, maybe a gauzy linen stole thrown around the shoulders... ah, the pleasures of a classic white shirt!  Now I can't wait for the mail to arrive...
Ralph Lauren Black Label Delaney Smocked Cotton Shirt, was $555, now $222 from Net-A-Porter.com